I received this quote in my inbox this morning.
It made me think about the past…friendships, relationships, memories.
I remember when my relationship with Mr. Mojito was rocky at best. A senior in college, my heart was still mending from a long-term relationship that recently ended. Mr. Mojito came into my life when I needed him most.
But our relationship was not exactly accepted by those we thought were our biggest supporters. Friendships were ruined from words and actions that could never be erased.
It felt like around every corner was another obstacle trying to tear us down…rip us apart.
We have never forgotten that time in our life…the time when someone else’s insecurity and jealousy became so overwhelming it nearly destroyed us.
But it didn’t. We stood our ground, together.
Those times made us stronger…chained our hearts together.
I often wonder if we never experienced those times what our relationship would be like today.
But then I remember there are people in life you cannot live without. That is Mr. Mojito for me. Period.
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Yours and Mr. Mojito’s story sounds very similar to mine and my husband’s story. We started dating in college, and several of our mutual friends stopped talking to me…not him, just me. It was really hard for a little while, but now we’re together, married, and happy.
Reading this really hits home… when I started dating my boyfriend, I had a lot of friends I had to talk to as our background story is similar in that some didn’t accept our relationship. But at the end of the day, you have to follow your heart and the people that matter will accept you and love you the same. And look at how happy you are now!! It’s all worth it in the end =)
Your story sounds all too familiar…why is it those people who we think care about us the most, do the most damage? My best friend was horrible to L and I ended our friendship over it. Several of his friends were not welcoming of me either because he had just ended a seven year relationship and they didn’t want to see him with anyone else. Not to mention the crazy ex-girlfriend, another story for another day. It were those difficult times that brought us together. I am so happy your relationship is so strong
It’s so crazy that so far every commenter so far has had a similar experience! Why are girls SO mean about each others’ relationships?
I have a lot of friends who were not exactly supportive of us. I mean even when the Mr and I got engaged they didn’t really congratulate us. And he’s never done anything to them, I guess maybe they were just envious of me? I’ll never know nor do I really care anymore.
I just love this. I’m so glad you found happiness in each other, regardless of what others say or do!
I totally get you on this! I called off an engagement to my college sweetheart when Mr. Marine, who I’d known for years, came back into my life. I lost almost all my college friends and for a while, I felt like my family wasn’t even on my side. I heard really hateful things were said to make me doubt my feelings, as well as the feelings Mr. Marine was telling me he had. But they didn’t (at least for the most part). I found new supportive friends, clung to the ones who lifted me when I was down, and Mr. Marine showed my family daily that he was going to love me forever.
Because of all this, we formed an “us against the world” bond that has seen us through some trying times, as well as a deployment. But we are a team, and without all that we had to go through, I’m not certain we would be as strong today as we are!
Glad you found your partner in crime and hung on for the ride!
I wish I knew why “girls” are so mean to each other too!
I called my best friend to tell her I was getting married but,
she talked the entire time. I never told her.
Now I just delete her e mails I don’t have time for her.
Waiting for the next chapter of SIBU
Aww, this is wonderful. TBF and I have had these moments as well where friends are not understanding and words are not taken back. It really is difficult to see friendships fall apart, but things happen, and it’s okay.
What a great quote! When I was in college my friends really did not like my boyfriend, in fact they tried to have “interventions” with me several times. In retrospect they had more then just cause to be weary of him but I always knew that he would come around eventually. He changed a lot but it still took several years for him to earn your trust. While I agree, girls can be mean, sometimes things seem one way when you are looking from the outside in. Ultimately…no one knows what is going on within a realtionship except the 2 people in it!
That is a great quote and I am so glad things worked out and the two of you stood your ground together and didn’t let anyone else tear you down. :o)
What a wonderful post, and so true. I wish we all knew why girls were so mean to each other all the time! It’s so frustrating when women can’t seem to accept one another’s decisions, huh?
Some of my very best friends have never been super supportive on my own relationship with my now husband. We did long distance for so long and since we didn’t see each other that much…he didn’t have a lot of time to hang out with my friends so they didn’t get to know him very well. Even so…it’s always bothered me that to this day my best friend has never really made an effort with him. When I called her to tell her I was engaged…she said, “Oh, I figured you were calling to say that. Guess what? My cousin’s pregnant.” What!?! Not cool…
This is beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing!
Sounds like you have a wonderful love story!!! Sounds a lot like mine!
It’s hard isn’t it? But, y’all made it through–and that’s what’s important. We had some hard times too. Not that I ever want to repeat them, but, it does strengthen you as a couple.
I know what you are saying. My partner and I had been together 3 years and it turns out our closest friend Byron secretly always trying to break us up. He said he supported our marriage and even after the ceremony made advances towards Steve… When we stopped talking to Byron, he went and voted yes on prop 8… Needless to say I am happy in <3
Your blog made my day, love prevails over jealousy.
Awww, love this, soooooo sweet!!!
That’s so cute! And actually, that’s how I feel about BF too. We had some rocky times and we pulled through. We don’t talk about it a lot, but when we do we both kinda realize that we are happy we both stuck it out, but things will hopefully never be like that again.
That is a lovely quote. I also enjoyed your take on it. Sorry to hear there were people that tried to interfere. So glad they did not! xoxo
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Did you and those friends ever make up? I had a similar situation and we never were friends again. So sad.
It’s crazy how similar most of the comments are! I was in the same spot! The person who introduced Farmboy and I, and said she’d love to see us together…. sabotaged everything! She lied to both of us about the other, told us things that were just downright crazy. Hoping that we’d never really become a couple, I think she knew if we ever started to date we’d never split. When she found out we were together, she told me that she hoped we did get married because she knew we’d end up divorced. Then she could say she told us so. Why on Earth would anyone be so hateful?? Anyway, the quote is so true and that’s why I’m with FB and rarely think of that girl anymore.